‘No’ joy

When people pleasers say no – there is peace


There are certain places and situations that drain me.

Some cannot be avoided, so I shore myself up, roll up my sleeves and prepare to live the moment until I get to the other side. But there are things that can be avoided.

I used to be what is quaintly called a ‘people pleaser’.

I found it really difficult to say no to certain people, situations, circumstances.

Because there were so many sideways feelings tangled up with the simple act of saying no.

I deserve to say no to things that drain me.

I deserve balance.

I deserve peace.

Now I take joy in saying no when I need to say no.

Those who love and respect me honor my need to take care of myself, as I honor their needs.

The greatest thing about being responsible for filling my own needs?

There’s no line up to stand in to get my needs met.

And when my needs are met, I’m better able to give to my loved ones.